And yet he has changed far beyond what his friend reckons. It only stands to reason that his name might have as well. That he might not feel that he is that man any longer.
If you had gone through such a life-changing experience that it drove you to a new name, a new life, would it not be a gross violation of your wishes for someone to bandy about your old one, well-intentioned or no?
... no. I get it. Back home, my friend Abner was born Jessica. I'm basically deadnaming him now and so is Hythlodaeus. It's a huge dick move on our parts. And it's understandable he's pissed off.
I just think how he's acting on being pissed is way beyond the pale.
(And, admittedly, it sticks in my craw to call him by the name of the poor asshole whose life he stole.)
Tis not for us to decide how one responds to a wounding that we caused. Tis our place to refrain from twisting the knife, and to make amends should they be welcome.
[He thinks maybe Hythlodaeus needs the reality check if it's come this far.
Also if you had known Estinien less than a year ago, you might be surprised he could be so level-headed about this.]
Whatever man the original Solus might have been is dead and gone, certainly beyond caring.
Yeah, I *know*. It's just. I don't know. The principle of the thing.
(Admittedly, being still on unpaid leave at work after two and a half weeks because *someone* has sent a Rotom to sabotage all the office equipment I dare try to use is. Well. Destroying a lot of what charity I *had* for 'Solus' right now. I mean, I know I earned it, but at the same time, I *really miss my job*.)
If you know, you ought practice it. Tis not that you needs must get along with him, Fury knows he is a right pain in the arse to deal with.
[Avoid him if you can't deal with him, would be Estinien's opinion, it's done him fairly well so far. Not with Solus because the man insists on being a bloody pest, but.]
I sent him a nightmare during the weird weekend. In return for all the times he terrified me and for bothering Tyler after I told him to stay away from him. And... god, I don't remember half the details anymore but I know it was absolutely horrific and got completely away from me. I think his mind must have filled things in on its own after I started it... my God, the shit that was in his head.
Anyway. I was ready to apologize and talk things out with him... and then he started sabotaging my ability to do my *job*.
Tyler is capable of defending himself, I should think.
[He distinctly remembers telling you that poking Solus was a bad idea. And so that's why Solus was so unbalanced after--not that Estinien had drug it out of him, he hadn't cared to pry what with his own shit that happened that weekend.]
I know full well that I warned you of the consequences of a similar action weeks ago. Especially to provoke his ire when he is in possession of all of his power...you ought count yourself lucky that it was not worse.
[Especially since he has a decent, if vague, idea of exactly how terrifyingly powerful the Ascian can be from his own encounter with the man over said weekend.]
He certainly is an ass, though if you think him completely unbearable you ought be glad you didn't meet me at my worst.
[He knows he can still be an absolute shitshow of a man but he's careful to try to notice it. Sometimes.]
You might try extending the olive branch, but be warned that he might not accept--though the offer may be enough to have him cease his campaign, if earnestly meant. Some hurts run deep, and men such as he are both proud and supremely unwilling to trust that we mortals are capable of change. I mean this not to reflect on his arrogance, necessarily, merely that he has seen time and again how petty and short-sighted we can be.
That said, I *did* apologize to him in the middle of my intoxicated fit of melancholy on my dead sister's birthday, *meant* it, and he didn't call off his damn rotom. Even though if he had then I'd have no idea that my computer troubles were him. So no. He won't accept it. I'm completely screwed when it comes to him.
... also, even at your worse, did you ever think that mortals were less than people? Because that's the thing I hate most about him. that he doesn't even think I'm a *person*. He's never actually said it *outright* but you can tell when a guy doesn't think you're people if it's happened to you enough and it's *definitely* happened to me enough. I'm not his goddamn gardener!
[It’s some time before a response comes, because…there’s a lot to think about before he responds.]
You might consider reoffering it while sober. Mayhap with a third party as mediator. A thought. Tis bad form to come to negotiations without a clear mind.
[Please do not ask him, please do not ask him, please do not ask him. He is not supposed to be the diplomatic one, that’s Aymeric’s wheelhouse. He did not absorb enough of that to be a mediator, he does not have the patience.]
No, rather the opposite--that it twas the immortal ones, the dragons, that were mere beasts to be cut down. I was a hateful and bitter man pursuing vengeance in exclusion to all else, with my only saving grace being that I cared more for my people than myself and had friends that were much better people than I ever could be. Even then, I was careless and like as not, that recklessness led men and women under my command to their deaths, justified to myself in that they knew what they had signed up for and were just as single-minded as I.
[It’s something else to pile onto that guilt and grief. He can’t be sure, of course, but…well he’s gone so deep into self-reflection that it’s come out as kind of a self-flagellation, so even if that had never been the case, he’s going to think it was.]
Tis a problem of scale, and ephemerality. An immortal being cannot fathom loss as we do, as they are not built to experience it. That grief is ever-lasting and ever-fresh, whereas we are able to come to terms with it. Some better than others.
I speak not for him, understand. My perspective was…rather uniquely gained. And is not that of an Ascian beside.
I'd ask Hythlodaeus to play referee, except, well, *they're* not talking either. Maybe Tyler, though. Or hell, even Dirk. Even if the two of them are fucking. Tyler and Dirk together, maybe. Dirk would be slightly biased towards 'Solus' and Tyler towards me, so it would even out.
The thing is, though, that no matter how immortal he was before, 'Solus' is just as mortal now as any of us and I don't think he *gets* that. And even if he wasn't... look. The one thing my parents made absolute sure to impress upon me as a kid is that everyone is a person, even if I don't care about them. Even if I hate them. I don't *have* to care about anyone, even if they'd prefer I would, but I do have to accept they're all people.
And I'm not a good person! At all! I don't know if I'm better or worse than you used to be, but deep down I'm an asshole too! But with 'Solus' it's like only the people he cares about are people! And I get the temptation to go with that logic! I do! But if even I'm capable of understand other people are people too, then why isn't *he*?
Hythlodaeus is not impartial enough. Neither is Tyler.
[Wait. Wait up. Back up a second.]
And that tis more than I cared to know.
[And also, not Hythlodaeus? He's very surprised.]
We are not. To his reckoning, we are a little more than half at best. Or should I say, *I* and those of us poor mortals of our world are a little more than half, and you are getting painted by the same brush.
[Sigh. He does not want speak of this, it isn't his place, he doesn't know the details, only what Solus told him, and while he trusts that the man was truthful about it, it's still not his place to drag this into the light of day.
Though maybe Steven already knows. Whatever horrific thing he saw in Solus' nightmares--he's willing to bet it's not all the mortal deaths he's seen over the millenia that causes Solus to lose sleep at night.]
To hear him tell it, the souls of the mortal races are the souls of his people, splintered and fractured and faded, spread between the fourteen shards of our once-whole world.
He estimated my age at fifty, more or less. I decided thirteen years wasn't worth arguing over. (Twelve, really. I'm not going to do the math for the exact day, but if I were home, I'd have had my birthday already.)
Anyway. Look. If I ever get to the point where I want to hammer out a truce with 'Solus' I'll call on you as referee. Right now, I don't feel like it's worth it, since I don't trust him to act in good faith and he's still sabotaging me at work. But maybe eventually.
You're the only one I can think to ask who isn't going to be biased due to best friend status or having fucked one of us at some point. Or both those things in terms of Hythlo.
[Estinien is learning far too much about everyone's sex life here, he does not like it. And he's so not typing 'not for lack of trying' because he doesn't want that out there, no sir.]
Yes, *alright*. Halone preserve, I do not wish to think of anyone's entanglements. Carnal or no.
And yet is Hythlodaeus not one of *his* friends? And also, may I point out, very certainly knows Solus well enough to judge his character and actions on his own.
If I told you that once my dearest friend tried to kill me in earnest, what would you say to that?
Now, you know not the details, only what I have given--only what you know transpired. Would you be as angry with Aymeric on my behalf as you currently are with Solus?
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If you had gone through such a life-changing experience that it drove you to a new name, a new life, would it not be a gross violation of your wishes for someone to bandy about your old one, well-intentioned or no?
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I just think how he's acting on being pissed is way beyond the pale.
(And, admittedly, it sticks in my craw to call him by the name of the poor asshole whose life he stole.)
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[He thinks maybe Hythlodaeus needs the reality check if it's come this far.
Also if you had known Estinien less than a year ago, you might be surprised he could be so level-headed about this.]
Whatever man the original Solus might have been is dead and gone, certainly beyond caring.
[Harsh.]
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(Admittedly, being still on unpaid leave at work after two and a half weeks because *someone* has sent a Rotom to sabotage all the office equipment I dare try to use is. Well. Destroying a lot of what charity I *had* for 'Solus' right now. I mean, I know I earned it, but at the same time, I *really miss my job*.)
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[Avoid him if you can't deal with him, would be Estinien's opinion, it's done him fairly well so far. Not with Solus because the man insists on being a bloody pest, but.]
What would have made you earn it?
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Anyway. I was ready to apologize and talk things out with him... and then he started sabotaging my ability to do my *job*.
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[He distinctly remembers telling you that poking Solus was a bad idea. And so that's why Solus was so unbalanced after--not that Estinien had drug it out of him, he hadn't cared to pry what with his own shit that happened that weekend.]
I know full well that I warned you of the consequences of a similar action weeks ago. Especially to provoke his ire when he is in possession of all of his power...you ought count yourself lucky that it was not worse.
[Especially since he has a decent, if vague, idea of exactly how terrifyingly powerful the Ascian can be from his own encounter with the man over said weekend.]
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He's still an unbearable ass, though.
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[He knows he can still be an absolute shitshow of a man but he's careful to try to notice it. Sometimes.]
You might try extending the olive branch, but be warned that he might not accept--though the offer may be enough to have him cease his campaign, if earnestly meant. Some hurts run deep, and men such as he are both proud and supremely unwilling to trust that we mortals are capable of change. I mean this not to reflect on his arrogance, necessarily, merely that he has seen time and again how petty and short-sighted we can be.
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That said, I *did* apologize to him in the middle of my intoxicated fit of melancholy on my dead sister's birthday, *meant* it, and he didn't call off his damn rotom. Even though if he had then I'd have no idea that my computer troubles were him. So no. He won't accept it. I'm completely screwed when it comes to him.
... also, even at your worse, did you ever think that mortals were less than people? Because that's the thing I hate most about him. that he doesn't even think I'm a *person*. He's never actually said it *outright* but you can tell when a guy doesn't think you're people if it's happened to you enough and it's *definitely* happened to me enough. I'm not his goddamn gardener!
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You might consider reoffering it while sober. Mayhap with a third party as mediator. A thought. Tis bad form to come to negotiations without a clear mind.
[Please do not ask him, please do not ask him, please do not ask him. He is not supposed to be the diplomatic one, that’s Aymeric’s wheelhouse. He did not absorb enough of that to be a mediator, he does not have the patience.]
No, rather the opposite--that it twas the immortal ones, the dragons, that were mere beasts to be cut down. I was a hateful and bitter man pursuing vengeance in exclusion to all else, with my only saving grace being that I cared more for my people than myself and had friends that were much better people than I ever could be. Even then, I was careless and like as not, that recklessness led men and women under my command to their deaths, justified to myself in that they knew what they had signed up for and were just as single-minded as I.
[It’s something else to pile onto that guilt and grief. He can’t be sure, of course, but…well he’s gone so deep into self-reflection that it’s come out as kind of a self-flagellation, so even if that had never been the case, he’s going to think it was.]
Tis a problem of scale, and ephemerality. An immortal being cannot fathom loss as we do, as they are not built to experience it. That grief is ever-lasting and ever-fresh, whereas we are able to come to terms with it. Some better than others.
I speak not for him, understand. My perspective was…rather uniquely gained. And is not that of an Ascian beside.
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The thing is, though, that no matter how immortal he was before, 'Solus' is just as mortal now as any of us and I don't think he *gets* that. And even if he wasn't... look. The one thing my parents made absolute sure to impress upon me as a kid is that everyone is a person, even if I don't care about them. Even if I hate them. I don't *have* to care about anyone, even if they'd prefer I would, but I do have to accept they're all people.
And I'm not a good person! At all! I don't know if I'm better or worse than you used to be, but deep down I'm an asshole too! But with 'Solus' it's like only the people he cares about are people! And I get the temptation to go with that logic! I do! But if even I'm capable of understand other people are people too, then why isn't *he*?
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[Wait. Wait up. Back up a second.]
And that tis more than I cared to know.
[And also, not Hythlodaeus? He's very surprised.]
We are not. To his reckoning, we are a little more than half at best. Or should I say, *I* and those of us poor mortals of our world are a little more than half, and you are getting painted by the same brush.
[Sigh. He does not want speak of this, it isn't his place, he doesn't know the details, only what Solus told him, and while he trusts that the man was truthful about it, it's still not his place to drag this into the light of day.
Though maybe Steven already knows. Whatever horrific thing he saw in Solus' nightmares--he's willing to bet it's not all the mortal deaths he's seen over the millenia that causes Solus to lose sleep at night.]
To hear him tell it, the souls of the mortal races are the souls of his people, splintered and fractured and faded, spread between the fourteen shards of our once-whole world.
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[He guesses that explains Hades and Dirk, though.]
Okay. I get how he thinks that doesn't mean we--you--are people.
But he's still goddamn *wrong*.
Also I have no clue who else to act as referee for us, except maybe you. I trust you to be impartial.
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[That gets a hearty laugh out of him, not that you can hear it over text.]
Impartial? Mayhap. But I have not a great wellspring of *patience*.
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Anyway. Look. If I ever get to the point where I want to hammer out a truce with 'Solus' I'll call on you as referee. Right now, I don't feel like it's worth it, since I don't trust him to act in good faith and he's still sabotaging me at work. But maybe eventually.
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[He's just. Not going to comment that he doesn't know exactly when his nameday is. Doesn't even cross his mind, actually.
Though he does sigh, again, not that he can be heard. But hadn't he just said he didn't have the patience?]
Fine. You'd be better served by a rock, but I shall do my utmost.
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Also yuck. They'd be *stale* by then.
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Yes, *alright*. Halone preserve, I do not wish to think of anyone's entanglements. Carnal or no.
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[It's the same sort of petty mistake his ass would make!]
Whatever...drama...he invites, he invites upon himself, it need not concern you. You might be the happier for it if you let it pass you by.
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If I told you that once my dearest friend tried to kill me in earnest, what would you say to that?
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"Please tell me this was before you were friends."
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Now, you know not the details, only what I have given--only what you know transpired. Would you be as angry with Aymeric on my behalf as you currently are with Solus?
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